Fathers: A Day in the Life Sunday

Google Father's Day and what do you see?

Right after the Wikipedia definition of father, I see a study that says children born to older fathers may live longer and an article from ABC News, Father's Day 2012: Are Dads Worth Less Than Moms?

Really? Do we have to rate, rank, study and value everything? I get the allure of quantification but you simply can't put a value on the love a father has for his daughter. And what it means to her.

The National Center for Fathering believes, "every child needs a dad they can count on. The research is clear: children thrive when they have an involved father—someone who loves them, knows them, guides them, and helps them achieve their destiny."

And so do I.

Happy Father's Day to the father of our daughter and my husband, Bill. Love you!

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And what does the daughter have to say?

Today we are celebrating the people in our lives that mean the most. The kind of people who teach you to fart, burp, and spit in public. These special people are our Dads. And the next time you think about your dad, think of all the things you can do because of him.

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!

3 Questions You Must Ask During a Performance Review

Performance reviews. Whether you  love them, hate them, or you would ditch them in an instant "if you were in charge," bottom line is that they are a reality in a day in life of most HR professionals, supervisors and employees.

Performance reviews involve forms, goals, expectations, objective - ok, subjective - ratings and sometimes pay increases and rewards. Every system is different, yet every system is the same in that one person is assessing the performance of another.

Listen to that again.

Regardless of the system, performance reviews come down to 2 people interacting with each other and the value of that interaction falls squarely on the shoulders of the supervisor, or rater.

After supervising and rating soldiers, junior officers, employees and students for over 25 years, you'd think I'd have this down to a science now, but I don't.

Each year, I am left with the feeling that I could have done more, I could have done it better. And each year I try something different. This year, I asked everyone these 3 questions and they were very well received:

• How do you rate yourself? Not one person directly answered the question (stinkers!) but we had good conversations about how they see themselves in their role, thier challenges, and their interests.

• What are you doing that I am not seeing? I know I don't see everything that people do each day to make this department work so this was an opportunity for each to tell me about problems they solved, customers they served, projects they finished and anything they were proud of.

• What is happening in the department that I am not seeing? This was more for me than for anyone else but I wanted to know what happens that they wonder, "why doesn't she just freakin' do something about this?" 

You are preaching to the choir when you begin to whine, "It's so Hard." I started this blog almost 6 years ago with the very same lament and I can tell you  - it is what it is and it never gets easier.

So quit your whining and tell me, what are you doing, or what have you done, to increase the value of your interactions with your employees during performance reviews?

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