Girl Friends: A Day in the Life Sunday

The social media space has been good to me.

After almost 7 years, people are still coming to the blog. My professional network has extended beyond a 50 mile radius from my work site and now includes professionals from coast to coast and across the pond. It has been a boost to my professional confidence.

But all things professional aside, it is the personal connectedness I've discovered that stands out for me today. It's friends. It's girl friends. It's making new and cherishing the old.

In Fortytude: Making the Next Decades the Best Years of Your Life - through the 40s, 50s and Beyond, author Sarah Brokaw writes that for women, "friendships are even more critical to our health and well-being than family relationships." On connectedness, Brokaw writes that it "means laughing with friends and loved ones as a way to keep going during the most challenging times in our lives."

Laughing can be in short supply at times with me as I tend to take myself much too seriously. There is no room for messiness in my life. On one hand I'd say there is no time for messes but truth be told, I can't let things get out of control because I don't know if I'd be able to put it all back together.

When I was pregnant with my daughter, the one thing I wanted her to know in her heart, her soul and every bone in her body was that I would always be there for her. That translated to me not wanting to be away from home for any length of time for travel and there wasn't any night in any bar that could compete with time with the kid.

Couple this with career, family and commitments and my friendships got the short end of the stick over the years.

New friendships? Ok, <if we must> if they can be developed in the spare few minutes I have here and there but really, I have all the friends my time permits.

Sound familiar?

Until my first official Girls Night Out (#GNO) in a few years back, I didn't know what I was missing and just how much I needed my girl friends.

Brokaw writes, "When it comes to meeting life's challenges . . . our female friendships are linchpins."

This weekend I am hanging with two of the best linchpins I have in my life and thinking of a few others ("if I could turn back time") north, south, west and East of the Equator as we #spa, #shop, #eat, #drink and more than anything else, we #connect.

We are cutting loose and having fun and restoring ourselves - and each other - along the way.

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The Kid Swims: A Day in the Life Sunday

Writing is getting to be a family affair and I am ok with that . . . as long as the kid doesn't write better than I do.

She is creating an autobiography as part of a school project, highlighting some events and thoughts about growing up. I recently shared my new found identity as a swim mom and when I saw what she wrote about swimming, I just had to share it with you.

 

Beep! You hear the long whistle signaling you to step up on the starting block. You can feel the hum of preface jitters flowing through your body like a wildfire. Minutes ago you were pacing the length of the pool promising yourself no matter what happens you'll be okay. You temporarily calmed yourself down. But now on the block, it all comes back. "What if I sink?" "What if I come in last?" All these thoughts are racing through my head, and more.  Then you hear the distant, "up" as your head plunges into the water.

And that's when the joy of flying begins.

I like to refer to swimming as flying since it has that amazing feeling of floating.  I've loved that sensation since I was a little girl. I have loved on the Mississippi river my entire life so I am used to swimming almost every day. Apparently swimming against the river current worked up some muscles with long names that I can't spell. I knew I wanted to be a swimmer the minute I stepped foot in the water. But I knew I wanted to be a competitive swimmer when my friend started.

I've only been to 2  swim meets since I've only begun swimming recently. I've won 2 heats and came 2nd in my heat in 2 races of 5. The swim meets take place in many different places in Minnesota. Approximately 100 people swim for my swim club ranging in ages from 4 to 34 years old.

One moment stuck in my mind is when I did my first swim meet. I was nervous yet confident for my 50 yard freestyle because I had just come in 3rd in my heat for backstroke. I jumped in the water and swam like my life depended on it, which my ego sorta did. All my work paid off and I was rewarded with my first big win.

I am not sure where I want swimming to be in my future but I know I want to continue with swimming.  I am not sure about it being a full-time job. I just don't want my life dreams to be shattered by losing one race.  I'll be sure to get back to you as soon as I find out.

You splash to the wall and turn. Then you make your way through the water desperately trying to finish first. Soon you glide smoothly under water to the finish pad. Even with all the nerves, I know I want to fly forever. 

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What do you think? Is she giving me a run for my writing money? In the pool, I don't have a stinkin' chance.

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