Girl Friends: A Day in the Life Sunday

The social media space has been good to me.

After almost 7 years, people are still coming to the blog. My professional network has extended beyond a 50 mile radius from my work site and now includes professionals from coast to coast and across the pond. It has been a boost to my professional confidence.

But all things professional aside, it is the personal connectedness I've discovered that stands out for me today. It's friends. It's girl friends. It's making new and cherishing the old.

In Fortytude: Making the Next Decades the Best Years of Your Life - through the 40s, 50s and Beyond, author Sarah Brokaw writes that for women, "friendships are even more critical to our health and well-being than family relationships." On connectedness, Brokaw writes that it "means laughing with friends and loved ones as a way to keep going during the most challenging times in our lives."

Laughing can be in short supply at times with me as I tend to take myself much too seriously. There is no room for messiness in my life. On one hand I'd say there is no time for messes but truth be told, I can't let things get out of control because I don't know if I'd be able to put it all back together.

When I was pregnant with my daughter, the one thing I wanted her to know in her heart, her soul and every bone in her body was that I would always be there for her. That translated to me not wanting to be away from home for any length of time for travel and there wasn't any night in any bar that could compete with time with the kid.

Couple this with career, family and commitments and my friendships got the short end of the stick over the years.

New friendships? Ok, <if we must> if they can be developed in the spare few minutes I have here and there but really, I have all the friends my time permits.

Sound familiar?

Until my first official Girls Night Out (#GNO) in a few years back, I didn't know what I was missing and just how much I needed my girl friends.

Brokaw writes, "When it comes to meeting life's challenges . . . our female friendships are linchpins."

This weekend I am hanging with two of the best linchpins I have in my life and thinking of a few others ("if I could turn back time") north, south, west and East of the Equator as we #spa, #shop, #eat, #drink and more than anything else, we #connect.

We are cutting loose and having fun and restoring ourselves - and each other - along the way.

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Career Advice from Women of HR

When I am not here, I am playing over at Women of HR.

What's Women of HR you ask? Women of HR is a multi-contributor blog dedicated to the development of women in human resources and business. This month, the Women of HR wanted to talk career so they are doing just that  . . . offering readers insights and advice on career enhancement drawn from years of experience.

Last week, Sally Williamson started us off with 3 impressions that keep women from advancing and Erin Palmer followed up asking {blah, blah, blah} if you were a constant complainer.

Coming up we have Andrea Ballared wondering asking if the paper resume is dead, Miriam Salpeter warns you that a job today is no guarantee of a job tomorrow, Nisha Ragavan shows you how you can  fill employment gaps for free and April Kunzelman encourages you to interview your interviewer.

Do you want more? How about the importance of preparing your references, four myths of self employment, five tips to prepare you for salary negotiation, the power of a network and moving beyond simply knowing you have choices to embracing choice

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While you are there,  check out the other Women of HR series. The first is Hindsight 20/20 where the contributors looked back and shared lessons learned and the second is the 6 Rules to Break series in which contrributors share their thoughts and reactions to a manifesto called Six Rules Women Must Break In Order to Succeed.

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