Career Development: 100 Questions to Grow By

You may want to pull my SHRM card when I tell you this but you have to know, I don't give enough regular feedback to my staff.

In fact, days can go by without me having a conversation (feedback or otherwise) with any given member of the department. Look closely and you may find my subscribing to the leadership approach, "No yelling, screaming, blood or broken bones so all must be OK."

When I do meet with staff, I am very intentional about moving beyond the performance review and am always on the lookout for ideas on how to shift the conversation and add value. And, it almost always involves asking questions.

A resource I reviewed recently is Help Them Grow or Watch Them Go: Career Conversations Employees Want, a new leadership book written by Beverly Kaye and Julie Winkle Giulioni. The authors share their approach to career development as career development through conversation. There are three conversations, hindsight, foresight and insight, and each has a distinct purpose and set of questions.

Of the nearly 100 questions in the book, three that caught my attention are from the hindsight conversation:

  • For each position, role or job held, what parts brought you joy, energy and a sense of persistence and which led to boredom, disengagement and a sense of just going through the motions?
  • What are you known for?
  • What skills do you appreciate in others that you don't always see in yourself?

Full of useful and simple ideas, this book is a solid resource for supervisors and mentors looking for a guide to get a career conversation going or a framework for a complete series of guiding conversations.

Toss the rigid career ladder and share the benefits of hindsight, foresight and insight with your staff as you engage them in conversations that make them think.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.

Mothers and Their Daughters: A Day in the Life Sunday

She has her head on my knee and I run my fingers through her hair as she settles in for an early bedtime. She is my daughter and I am her mother. This is my story.

I love this kid more than life itself and there isn't anything I wouldn't do for her. Growing up, I did not have a child of my own boldly planted on my life radar but now that I have a daughter, I can't imagine my life without her.

I remember being pregnant and laboring over what I would do if the baby was sick and I had to be at work. Well, that was a waste of time because the first time she was sick, the choice was clear. She came first and everything else, from that moment on, became a distant second.

I am committed to her. I am committed to her knowing that she is loved, that she matters and that she belongs. I am committed to not imposing my fears, insecurities and doubts on her and letting her discover and experience the world through her own eyes and in her own way.

Simple, right? No, it's not. A recent early morning series of texts between us went like this:

Her:  Please, please, please come pick me up before school starts.
Me:   What's up?
Her:  Momma, I'm exhausted and just need to sleep, please pick me up.
Me:   Hang in there and go to the nurse if you feel sick and she will call me. 
Her:  Please momma please, I need you. You have to come get me.
Me:   I will come early at 3:30. Love you. 

My inner voice spoke, she'll be fine, she's in a safe place, the school will call if she is sick, she was up late last night, as the texts continued. I responded  thoughtfully to each request from my daughter as I watched the clock tick to 8:40 am, the time when school starts and both the pleading texts of a tired kid and the almost tears of a mother torn would be packed away for the day.

Watching her drift off to sleep now, I wonder what story my daughter would tell.