Personal Board of Directors: A Day in the Life Sunday

The kid participated in a babysitting clinic yesterday. She rotated through stations, role played and ended the day with a panel of parents.

Energized by the day and wanting to babysit NOW, the questions begin and quickly turn from babysitting basics to my babysitting experiences:

"Did you babysit for others before I was born, Mom?"

"No not much. Until I had you, I wasn't particularly fond of children. Why?"

"I want to have my own panel of parents so I can ask them questions. I want people with experience."

A day later, I'm still not sure if I passed and get to be on her panel of parents but her questions got me thinking.

A friend whom I admire greatly, offered his support to help me do whatever it is I wanted to do in anyway he can: critique, connect . . . be on my personal board of directors.

Parenting panel . . . personal board of directors - get the connection? ==> People committed to helping you be better tomorrow than you are today. I've read about them, thought they'd be a grand idea and even suggested to a mentee or two that they consider putting one together  - yet I've stopped short of having one myself.

Why? Oh, I am sure the reasons changed over the years from being lazy and not interested in accountability and returning favors to being a fiercely independent and content know-it-all but it really was not something I thought about often.

I am thinking about it now.

I am thinking about blind spots and about gaps in my experiences, skills and day-to-day activities. I am thinking about people with experiences, skills and day-to-day activities I can learn from. I am wondering how others see me and how that's different than I see myself. I am thinking about what I can give back.

I am wondering if I already have some of the pieces in place and not even realize it?

Tell me this, do you have a personal board of directors? How did you staff your board of directors? What's the biggest leap they asked you to make that you would not have made on your own?

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A Leader's Privilege

Leadership is not for the faint of heart. Or know-it-alls.

Leadership Fail

Flash to a conference room in Anywhere, U.S.A. for a weekly project meeting. A leader is sitting at the head of the table with his project managers all around. The project hit a snag and a 2 week adjustment to the plan is in order. The leader has a plan and is prepared to communicate it to the team.

The leader convenes the meeting, communicates the change in plans and a project manager raises a concern. The leader explains his reasoning for the particular course of action he selected.

The project manager considers the leader’s reasons and offers his operational perspective on another option. The leader restates his reasoning.

The project manager identifies pros and cons of the two options and requests a change in direction. The leader restates his reasoning.

In the next 30 seconds, employee engagement would be lost.

When the project manager spoke again, it went something like this, “I recommend, and prefer, an alternate course of action  . . .  but you are the boss. If you want us to do it your way, we will.”

Did anyone else just see what I did? Absent the project manager throwing his hands in the air, it was a clear declaration of defeat.

I looked to my left, I looked to my right and I looked to the leader - just in time to hear him restating his reasoning again.

Leadership Lesson

Leadership is hard work. Leadership is about inspiring people and leading change. It's about being present in the moment to influence options and approaches to new or long-standing issues.

The 2 week change in plans would not determine the success and failure of the project; it was a matter of preference and approach. The leader did ultimately agree to accept the project manager's suggestion, but it was too late. Presented with an opportunity to engage the team in jointly solving a problem, he chose to hold his ground.

Leaders have the benefit, and responsibility, of position. Rank does have its privileges but being right is not one of them. Leadership is not about self, it’s about others and leaders are judged by their actions. How a leader views, and acts upon, their leadership privilege speaks volumes.

What are your actions saying about you?

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